whirlwind romance

Whirlwind romance: Things you need to keep in mind

Young adults are turning to a whirlwind romance to cope with loneliness and the pandemic blues.  Take the case of 24-year-old Shivani Lath (name changed). She shares, “Due to the lockdown, I have not stepped out of my home for more than four months now. While I do voice chat with my friends, I also signed up on dating apps as I was looking for romance. Some of my friends were against the idea, and advised me against it. However, I chose to go with it, and that’s how I ended up meeting the love of my life.” And while Shivani is happy about making a meaningful connection, not all whirlwind romances end up that way. Clinical psychologist Seema Hingorani cautions you about things to keep in mind about a turbo romance.

A whirlwind romance: Five things you should consider

Reflect on your reasons for looking for a whirlwind romance It’s important to ask yourself why you are in this relationship. Is it really because you like/love this person? Is it because you are bored or desperate? Do you really see this relationship blossoming into something meaningful in the long run?

Get to know the person better Make sure you find out more about the individual and are not in love with the idea of being in love. Often that takes over, especially in a whirlwind romance, and everything else takes a backseat.

Ask relevant questions to understand his or her worldview Often people do not take the time to get to know each other better. Your individual likes, dislikes, morals and worldview matter. In fact, in the long run, these can become dealbreakers that can undo the foundations of a romance.

Be mindful about the choices you are making When people are romantically involved, it’s often difficult for them to step back and be objective about their partner’s flaws. Hence, before you make a vital decision about your life, it’s important to confide in someone you trust. Be open about your feelings, and also get them to meet and interact with this person, and get their view.

Do not commit to anything before you have met the person While online whirlwind romances are common today. It’s important to meet and interact with the person before you take things to the next level. Hold off on making vital decisions that can impact the rest of your life.