Valentine’s Day and the month of love puts added pressure on singles. Many of them try to fight odds to find love in a haste. However, it’s equally important to understand if you are ready for a new relationship. Dr Kedar Tilwe, consultant psychiatrist, Fortis Hospital Mulund and Hiranandani Hospital, Vashi, suggests five important questions that can help you determine your state of mind.
Questions to ask yourself to figure if you are ready for a new relationship
The month of love is especially hard for singles. There is a lot of emphasis on being with someone especially on Valentine’s Day. And while love is in the air, it’s important not to let that pressure get to you. Instead ask yourself these questions, which can help you determine if you are ready to embark on a new relationship.
- What are your expectations from your would-be partner?
This gives you clarity, and helps you understand what you are looking for in a partner.
- What are you willing to commit to in the relationship?
The answer to this question tells you how serious you are about entering a new relationship.
- Are you simply in love with ‘the idea’ of being in a relationship, or do you genuinely care for the other person?
It’s easy to get carried away with the emotions and peer pressure. However, the answer to this question can put things into perspective for you.
• Are you looking for a life-long relationship?
The answer to this question can help you determine if you and your partner are on the same page. Do you’ll share the same expectations when it comes to the nature of relations you are looking it. Is it something casual or something more meaningful. It’s vital that both of you are in sync here.
• Are you certain that this is not a knee-jerk response to a previous failed relationship or an effort to spite your ex?
Many individuals end up in new relationships to get back at an ex or as a knee-jerk response. Hence, it’s important not to enter a relationship in a haste and to take things slow, so that you can be sure about your feelings for the other person. This will also give you a chance to build a steady foundation as you get to know the person better.